I have this really annoying habit of crying when I'm frustrated or really angry. I don't usually cry when I'm sad or depressed, but get me really red-hot angry and I'll burst into tears. It's something about not being able to express myself properly that gets me all choked up. Tears don't even having to start pouring down my cheeks-you can hear my voice change and I start choking on my own throat. I hate it.
It's for this very reason that I avoid going in and talking to bosses/managers when I have an issue. Especially when all of those bosses/managers are male. When Brittney was my manager, I'd start bawling and she'd totally understand because she's a girl. It seems like when most men are confronted with a crying woman they immediately shut off and your cause is lost. No bueno.
Seriously. I like my job, and I am damn good at it-but that doesn't mean that I can handle the endless amounts of stress that has been piled on my lately just because I'm the only one who cares. I'm also tired of the stress that comes from trying to get my supervisor to help be with it. I think he's just gotten to the point where he ignores me because I keep reiterating that I'm frustrated. Not Okay.
So I took my concerns to another manager today, and it was so great! He listened to my concerns and we discussed options for fixing it and getting me help. I really like this manager. Also, I totally didn't cry (though he told me he'd understand if I did, since his mother had the same issue) so go me! It will be nice to finally have some help.
I confess that I'm seriously thinking of teaching a class on how to wear cologne.
BOYS! (Well, and some girls.) You do not need to take a bath in your cologne every day. When you wear enough cologne that I can smell you 20 feet away and your scent lingers even after you've been gone a half hour-it's TOO MUCH!
I confess that tequila is a wonder cure.
Seriously. Last night Julie was sad and lonely so she came over and did tequila shots. This turned into drunkenly dancing around the kitchen making delicious guacamole. So. Much. Fun. I also feel much less annoyed with everything today-so it did the trick!
What are you confessing today?
Oh girl, I've had that crying disease! It's so frustrating! I love all your funny cards on the post today!
ReplyDeleteoh my so sorry to here things are stressful for you. hugs hope next week is better
ReplyDeleteI cry too! All the time. Mad crying is the worst though! Not even 10 minutes ago I mad cried. Men just don't get it. I'm hoping to do tequila shots tonight! Have a fab weekend!
ReplyDeleteOh wow, I totally do the same thing, and I get so mad at myself for crying, but I can't help it. Confrontation makes me cry every time.
ReplyDeleteI hate when I get that mad. It just makes me more angry and then I start shaking...and I feel like I'm falling apart. Tequila will do wonders though :o) Hope you have a better week next week and have a fantastic weekend.
ReplyDeleteThese are awesome! I passed on the Tequila someecards...I totally understand the cry at work-thing, so been there!
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad you found a good manager to talk to! It's a bummer that it isn't YOUR manager, but good managers seem to be rare as hens teeth. And yours is clearly not a good one. :(
ReplyDeleteIf it helps, I have the exact same problem with crying when frustration. It took me 28 years to be able to speak coherently when the tears start, but it's still a pain in the keester when that happens. Best thing is to disclaimer, and then roll with it. Fighting it only makes it worse!
I totally get you on the crying thing. I cannot tell you how many times I closed my door when I was pregnant and bawled because I was SO angry at my boss that couldn't seem to figure out how to treat a pregnant chick!
ReplyDeleteOh, Angie. I really hope that work situation improves. Good for you fro taking extra steps to get help.
ReplyDeleteTequila and guacamole sounds pretty good right now.
Have a fabulous weekend!
I am the same with the crying thing! I just can't help it and I don't know why! Sometimes I just get so angry that it bubbles over and start crying!
ReplyDelete& sometimes you need night of Tequila and Guac to make you feel better. :)
so glad you got the courage to go to your manager! much better than worrying about it all alone!
ReplyDeleteWell i confess that when i went o The Ritz for afternoon tea on Sat, i dropped a sugar lump from a great height into my cup of tea and sploshed tea all. over. the cream table cloth!! haha!!