However, while this idea is in the back of my head, I don't completely agree with it. Forgiving, yes. Forgetting? No way. If you were to forget the bad things people do to you, or the negative ways they treat you, then you allow yourself to be treated that way again. You allow those things to keep happening to you, and you just end up in a twisted cycle. So no, I wont forget, but I will forgive.
This week, I let the forgiveness in. Something along the way urged me to extend a peace branch, and even if it was refused-I still feel accomplished. The peace and good energy was put out there, I tried to speak to him in a normal sense, and he wasn't having it. Now, that is on him, and no longer on me. If he wishes to continue to hold a grudge and be angry about it, so be it. However, I will no longer carry these negative burdens around with me. Life is too short to hold onto things like this; it's time to move on.
Also, the woman in the office that he's seeing now (you know, the one that caused so much drama by running her mouth about me and also things she's done to the other ex) was in tears the other day because everyone has ostracized her. We all know what she's done to people, and in that sense no one wants to be her friend and she's feeling it now, and for some reason I feel a little bad about it.
By all means, it's only a little bad because some of it seems very much deserved, but blame it on my bleeding heart, I hate to see another human so desperate for a friend that she'd break down and cry at work. So I did what any good-natured human being (or maybe just someone with the remnants of a savior complex that can't stand to see people hurting) would do-I forgave her and passed it through the grapevine that I didn't hate her. Also, when she came and asked me a question Saturday morning, I smiled warmly and responded as sweetly as possible in hopes of showing her that not everyone hates her. Perhaps, if someone who she's actually wronged can show her kindness, everyone else will follow suit...
Besides, I have a feeling she's going to need some friends eventually, because she's bound to end up like those of us who have already been there.
In any case, I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off of my chest, and I feel so much better about the entire thing. Work doesn't seem as dreadful as it did, and I feel like my old self again-the me who can't hate anyone.
What do you guys think? Is it weird that I feel good about making someone happy who wronged me? Do you have any stories of times you had to forgive someone and realized how much it made you feel better? Any thoughts on "forgive and forget"?
Please share, I'd love to hear it!